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Nothing in the world smells as good as the person you love.  —Unknown (via certifiedcynic)

(Source: toinfinityandswann, via clairetheboss)


me: *goes to kitchen*

Family: Why do you stay in your room all day?





(via jess3-28)

Self importance is our greatest enemy. Think about it—what weakens us is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of our fellow men. Our self importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone.  —Carlos Castaneda (via lazyyogi)
How do I rid myself of missing people whom I know are nothing but toxic to me and my lifestyle? I tend to forgive easily, and then history repeats itself and I find myself in a stump. How do I forgive those who have done me wrong, without letting them back into my life, AND without feeling the guilt from not allowing them? by fmlfmlfmlllllll


Forgiveness in its complete form does not mean forgetting. It means understanding. Real forgiveness should not lead to circular happenings but rather should liberate you from perpetuating those cycles. 

My favorite role model for forgiveness and compassion is a good mother. A good mother will certainly forgive and aspire to understand her child. But will she just forget the child’s mistakes so that they can simply happen over and over? Of course not. 

So aspire to forgive through sincere understanding. Understand that if you were not so influenceable, these people wouldn’t seem so toxic. Also understand the circumstances which have encouraged toxicity in those people. In this way, you can appreciate the larger picture. 

You are still growing and getting your footing, which is why the influence of these people is harmful. Instead of making it about judgments or guilt, simply recognize that it is about personal growth. Some day you will be able to love and help others, no matter how toxic they may seem. But that cannot happen before you uncover some of your own peace and clarity within. 

So be true to what life is asking of you. Go your own way, be open to the new people that come into your life, and surrender to the movement away from the more toxic individuals. You don’t need to isolate yourself, avoid toxic people, or put up walls. Just flow in the direction that awakens your heart until you are ready to live from that place within. 

I’d highly recommend the book The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. It will definitely help with this process you are going through. 

Namaste :)





ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.Here’s the answer:Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someoneelse. This is when relationships breakdown.The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.Because (listen carefully to this)The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to knowWHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!

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